Nobody's left...

[silversolitaire]

Today before I went to work I opened the morning paper and saw an obituary of Martin's father... Martin was X's childhood friend and the three of us have often hung out together. Martin and I sorta lost contact, but at X's funeral we talked some and I promised to write more, which I didn't do of course... Now I wonder if I should write him a condolence card. This would be my first. I have such a hard time writing them. What do you write? "Hey, sorry your dad is dead." I've never quite understood the point of them...

This is very scary. Of all of our friends, I'm the only one who hasn't experienced any death up close yet... I'm trying to tell me this means nothing and all, but it gets me thinking... Three years ago Gregory's dad crashed with his plane and died instantly. My parents then told me I should write a card, but I didn't because I didn't know what to say. I saw him again at X's funeral but somehow he didn't look at me. Either, he didn't notice me or he's holding a grudge against me now... T_T And then there's X, who - as you all know - died last year in a car crash. And there's Sasa who had to flee from his home in Bosnia and refused to go back when he was drafted and now he's a deserter and subject to prison time should he ever go back home. I can still remember his sad look when he realized that he'd never be able to go back... he called me last February and we said we'd meet, but of course I never called him back... Oh God, I'm such a horrible friend... I wish I didn't feel that way, I wish I didn't feel like I was imposing myself on everyone when I'm contacting them. I wish I didn't feel so sick at the thought of calling someone up all the time.

All our mad mad friends ain't here no more...

And as if to pour salt into my wounds Richard wrote me a mail in reply to my suggestion we should meet (which is really amazing considering how sick I feel at the mere thought of asking that!) and he said he doesn't have that much access to his mail right now but would like to meet, so I should call him up and leave me number on his machine. ;_; Of course I won't call... *ears droop*

No one's coming to my door
And all my friends are gone...
There's no work here anymore
It's deserted...

Comments

[no-ron.livejournal.com]

>>>Of course I won't call... *ears droop*
ok. gimme his number and yours and i'll call him for you! ;)
geez. he asked for your number. it'd be rude not to reply now..
just take a deep breath and go ahead.

[kribban.livejournal.com]

I wish I didn't feel that way, I wish I didn't feel like I was imposing myself on everyone when I'm contacting them

First off: if you don't call them you are a worse friend than if you do. A good friend calls too often rather than too seldom. You can also say to them: look, if I don't call you for a couple of months it's not because I don't love you - it's just the way I am. I still am your friend just as much, so always keep in mind that I love you even if I don't contact you for a while. Another tip is to do what I do when I call someone, I ask "Am I interrupting?" that way I can still keep my dignity if they're busy.

Finally, this....
but would like to meet, so I should call him up and leave me number on his machine. ;_; Of course I won't call... *ears droop

You idiot! You should pick up the phone ASAP and call! You can NOT miss an opportunity to meet Dream Man no.2! (No. 1 being Tom of course.)

[vampiresetsuna.livejournal.com]

hehe, ::ducks:: don't kill me... i used to work at a hallmark, right? and there really are cards for that kind of thing, that you don't really know the people and don't know what to say. =P could just pick up a sympathy one and sign your name; don't really have to say anything yourself. or if in doubt about the sadness of it, go with a thinking of you card, instead of a sympathy. =P ::huggles:: don't think it makes you a bad friend not to reply, expecially if you're not comfortable to do so; then don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with! but, if you want to see him, but are just worried about his response, give him a call anyway!