Friends list, First Sweep

[silversolitaire]

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I've purged my friends list some. It's something I've meant to do for a long time. I'm not done yet either. This is the first sweep. I'm going to do a second and third later on. I've thought about this very carefully, looked at every journal, the userinfo and when they've commented on something I wrote last time. For now I've removed people I haven't really interacted with for a long time. I've also removed multiple accounts, fiction accounts, abandoned accounts etc. of people I still read, so don't worry about that. If you have been removed and absolutely hate it, please let me know and I'll most likely add you back. But given the fact that we haven't talked for a while I doubt you'll even notice. The point of this purge was that I simply need to cut down on my friends list. It's too big, too full of strangers, basically.

If you've been removed, rest assured, I didn't do it because I think you're boring or hate you or want you out of my life. It's simply because I want a clean slate, where I can give my LJ friends the attention they deserve. Lately I've been filtering a lot, up to a point where I barely read any entries anymore except those of my closest friends. That's not the idea of LJ. So, I had to cut. I hope you understand.

All in all this has been very healthy for me. I've taken the time to look through every single LJ of the 100+ people on my list, get to know them again, notice them as an individual. I think people do this a lot less lately.

Of course, I realize this is a bit of an unfavorable time for the sweep since I've been posting almost exclusively friends only lately. I'll see what develops. If a lot of people express their dislike of being cut or keep me on their list I will think about doing public posts more often. I've been thinking about that "weekly update" thing for a while. So, if you want to keep me on your list anyway, please do. I'm always tempted to ask you not to remove me, but of course that'd be selfish. It's not like you need to remove me now because I'm such a mean bitch. I'm not... I just want to keep this a bit more private.

Take care.

EDIT: I'm not purging as some form of punishment for not reading or commenting, okay? Just so you know. It's very nice to hear you're still reading, but it's not like I'm going to kick everyone who doesn't read my LJ religiously. I'm really just trying to manage my LJ a bit better.

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Comments

[queststar.livejournal.com]

I'm thinking of cutting my friends list as well... I realized that I've been skipping a bunch of entries as of late and that's not my intention :/ But I always find it very hard to decide whether to remove a person or not.

[krss.livejournal.com]

I am glad I didn't go at the first sweep.

I don't comment much, barely at all, but it's not because I don't read your posts. I do, I read them entirely. I still think you have one of the most interesting journals on LiveJournal. That said, I don't want to comment something inappropriate or stupid. That's why I don't comment. But I will start commenting more.

I think it helps to prune the friends list. You had a huge list, and couldn't possibly have read everything on it. It must feel very stressful and inaccomplished.

And I want you to know that even if you take me off your list I will keep you on mine, hoping that you will make some public posts from time to time. =) I like you a lot. =)

[vampiresetsuna.livejournal.com]

makes sense to me! i hate it when friends lists get too cluttered to read them all, and then I run out of time to comment, but not many of my friends have been posting much lately over the holidays. =P

[silversolitaire.livejournal.com]

XD! Don't worry. I'm not going through the journals, saying "Dude! This person hasn't posted for two weeks! *UNFRIENDZ!!!!!!!!! >:O!!!!* I'm really just looking at everyone, wondering if I read them a lot, if they seem to read me, if I feel like I know them... that stuff. And it's not like I'm going to delete everyone, no questions asked, who hasn't commented in a while. There are still a lot of people I appreciate greatly and want to keep on my list. I just want a smaller list ;_;. Not sure if I'll ever manage that *sighs*. I'm having a very hard time deleting people. I feel like such a pig...

[silversolitaire.livejournal.com]

Yes, it's really difficult... There are so many people that I appreciate and want to keep, even though I might not have the chance to read them all the time. I mean, with filters it's all become a lot easier to manage. But I just wanted my LJ to look less like a place full of strangers. I'll probably never manage to keep it really small and simple. But at least I'll be able to keep everyone in my default view.

[silversolitaire.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, I'm not going to purge you. I'm not very likely to delete people I know from somewhere else. And I understand when you're busy and all. I know from myself that I often don't comment even though I've read the posts of people. That's hardly my priority for the purge. And yes, this list was huge. Mainly because I always friend everyone back because I feel like it's mean not to >_<;. It's really tricky. I need to stop doing that.

[krss.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you're not purging me. ^_^ And you're doing a good thing for yourself with this filtering out.

[marcyleecorgan.livejournal.com]

Well, I enjoy reading your entries. I remember friending you from the LJ toy that shows which member has the most in common with you, and you matched me 98%. :) & we sorta knew of each other from HP fandom.

However, I totally understand the cutting down of the friends list. & if I don't make it past the final cut, I'll still check in. :)